What to Do After a Tantrum
Forgive your child right away
- Tell her you love her
- Give her a hug
- If she was able to calm down quickly, praise her
Teach your child better ways to express her bad feelings.
- Set a good example. When you're feeling frustrated or upset, don't start yelling in front of her.
- Show her how to take deep breaths to calm down.
- Remember, it's healthy for your child to cry sometimes.
You can keep notes about the tantrums
- How long the tantrum lasted
- What started the tantrum
- What ended the tantrum
- What your child told you about why she is upset
- Your response to the tantrum
- Your discussion about the tantrum later
These notes will help you understand why the tantrums are happening, and help you fix the problem.
Ask your child's doctor for help if:
- Her tantrums usually last for more than 10 minutes.
- It seems like she's always having a tantrum.
- She tries to hurt herself or other people when she's upset.
- She has a really hard time calming down.
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